Monday, January 8, 2018

Saying Goodbye To Comparison

Hello lovelies!

I know it's Monday and that usually means a recap post. I actually had one typed up... It was short and sweet after a "not-so-very interesting" week, but I wasn't feeling it for today. Today I wanted to hop on here and talk about a topic that most women (and some men) struggle with at some point in their lives-- Comparison. "She has better hair than me... A nicer car... Bigger house... She's part of the "in crowd"... More money... etc."

Just stop. *eye roll*

I found myself thinking these sorts of things this past weekend and I literally wanted to punch myself in the throat! Ha! I was getting my hair done and there was a girl that seemed to have everything going for her. Perfect hair, perfect body, beautiful face, a fancy corporate job, an expensive Louis Vuitton purse, name-brand clothing, and you could definitely tell she had been one of the "popular girls" her entire life. As I was sitting there listening to her talk, I started to become super insecure about myself and began to wonder why I didn't have all of those same things. But then it hit me--WHY? Why was I letting another human-being that knew absolutely nothing about me and could probably not give two cents about my life, influence the way I was feeling about myself?

Now, I do want to clarify something... I'm not saying there's anything wrong with having nice things or being the "popular" one in a crowd-- but there IS more to life than those superficial things! We all have a purpose in this world and just because we may not "live up" to certain expectations that others feel are important to be socially accepted, doesn't mean our lives don't have value.

I've always been very closed-off when it comes to letting people in my life. (Especially when it came to girls!)  I think a lot of it has to do with this very reason. Comparison! I've never felt good enough... or pretty enough... or WORTHY enough and I always thought "why would someone want to be MY friend?" Therefore, I tried to stay as far away from people as I possibly could-- OR if I did let someone in, I usually wound up overthinking everything and ruining the friendship in some way or another. Classic Charity...lol

I've learned so much about myself lately and I can honestly say I'm the happiest I've ever been. A girl that I've followed on Instagram for a while now, always says something that continually sticks in my mind when I start feeling insecure: "Act confident and no one will question you!"
This is SO true! Who gives a flying flip if you don't have the latest handbag or those $900 pair of shoes that all the "popular" girls have? You do YOU and don't worry about everyone else. I can say with 100% certainty, you will live a much happier life! I'm to the point in my life that I love being me. I love living life, being goofy and smiling all the time... Even if people think I'm "weird." I don't care anymore! I love my sense of humor and the fact that, yeah, I AM probably a bit quirky. ;) If people can't accept the whole you, it's allllll good. You'll never be everyone's cup of tea! And when it comes to friends, I would rather have 4 quarters than 100 pennies! With that said, don't let the 100 pennies of the world define YOU.

I say we all put up the PEACE OUT sign (lol) and say ADIOS to comparison! Be confident with who you are... Lift others up and let that light shine, girl! (or boy...) Teehee.

I hope you all have a wonderful week!

Love always,
Charity
XOXO

"You only truly grow as a woman when you realize that other girls are not, and never have been, your competition."

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